Appreciative “May” benefit your outlook and health

Today was one of those days….. bombarded by everyone and trying to settle on finances and budgets, schedules, as typical of working women who are trying to balance their life. And yes if you are in your midlife or older chances are you are that “squeezed” sandwich generation where you have the task of home, younger family and elder family care. It’s no coincidence then that this group often experiences burnout and what is called “caretaker syndrome”.

According to statistics,  women have it worse as they are tasked with more housework (if not all of it) caring for their aging parent or in-law, all the while their teenager is flipping out or their little one is whining about something. It turns out that women’s natural ability to multitask makes it easier for everything  to get done …so remind me why women are paid less?

And did I mention married men have better overall health than married women ? Likely because spouses usually nag their husbands about going to the doctor. So be appreciative of your wives! And if you’re divorced try to hang out with more female friends, they might benefit your health if they’re health literate themselves!

As I was scrambling to get my facts straight about changing risk behaviors, making lists and filling in my calendars (yes both paper and electronic!) the look on my face likely made the cafe barista want to lend a hand or a heart ❤️ as you see from the cappuccino outcome.  I’m very appreciative!

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It got me thinking that many important holidays and days of remembrance happen in May. Mother’s Day, Memorial Day, European Cancer prevention week,  Clean Air Month to name a few. In thinking of the outdoors I was also appreciative (despite my seasonal allergies) to walk in green fields and soak up some sunlight this past week. It’s amazing how nature truly calms us and is truly a “soul healer”. Dr. Scott Peck, you’d be proud as I often take “The Road Less Travelled”.

2A55A92F-2801-4A9C-BCDA-96F295A95A35Five simple things you can do this month to make you more appreciative of others and  your community at large:

1) Smile, and Say  “thank you” more often and give thanks for what you have (the glass is half full remember??). Regardless of their age, little and big people love this!

2) Reuse, Reduce, Recycle ♻️ daily. Keep things simple and “prune your stuff often” as experts like Kondo recommend. Life can be complicated, make it simpler.

3) Take a walk (20-30 minutes daily or at least 3 Xs a week) for heart health and better cognitive function.  While you’re at it, plant a tree 🌳 , and remember to always stop and smell the roses, or the violets. Exercising and doing more self-care are a ‘must’ for long-term benefits.

4) Read a new book (or listen via audio), write a letter to a beloved friend — no matter how far they are…even “snail” mail is great on occasion it’s a pleasant surprise!

5) Be creative whether in art, food, or in writing.  Write five things you enjoyed or accomplished each week — don’t focus on what you didn’t finish — this adds to your  self-esteem and your outlook of positivity. We all tend to be harsh on ourselves or others but remember one needs a hand (or a branch/vine) if they are to get un-stuck in the quicksand!

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Silent nights and peppermint dreams…

How many of us have read the now classic American story  “‘Twas the Night before Christmas” which is actually a poem written in the 1800s whose message has been carried through to us today? We all seek the goodness of this holiday regardless of our religious backgrounds. We can feel the quiet anticipation from the  lines “…not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse” or “children were nestled all snug in their beds dreaming of sugar plums which danced in their heads”.

Emphasis on the NEED for quiet and sleep, especially our young ones who need at least 9 -11 hours nightly for healthy brain development (younger babies up to 14 hours) and for us older types at least 6-8 hours are needed for full rest and necessary “beauty sleep”. As a matter of fact our skin does better with more hours of sleep and the need for darkness for melatonin to be released to experience full rest which is one reason for people to get help with insomnia or even sleep lab tests for cases like sleep apnea !

When we travel away from the craziness of the city’s busy sidewalks even though they may be “dressed in holiday style” we may realize (mindfully or not) the necessity of stillness and quiet. Is it any coincidence that many people go to places where they don’t need to talk much or at all? From mountains to yoga retreats, or walking (driving) in chilly evenings to get those night views of fabulous extreme or minimally decorated homes.  Some of us may wish for a white Christmas but for many it is that necessary quiet space that is needed at the end of a busy day of visiting family and friends, or finishing that last minute shopping for a gift or making that fabulous dessert that will cost us our daily caloric intake!

Speaking of which, how many of you feel nostalgic about candy canes or peppermint chocolate/ icecream ? A particular favorite sold only in old time ice cream parlors is popular in certain regions of the US! I particularly loved this recipe made with Greek yogurt by Dannette May for peppermint ice cream (see here) for that extra protein. Also many of us don’t call know that peppermint oil is great for body destressing as it has great healing properties ….

Thus holiday wishes to all and to all a good, quiet, night with a nice peppermint inspired accompaniment!IMG_1666