Women celebrate a very important day, ourselves ! What will you do to honor your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling, daughter, grandmother or grandchild? Let’s start with some good words like “you are special,” “thanks for being in my life,” “you help me become a better person.” Gifts 🎁 and flowers 💐 are always welcomed! This article describes the 5 reasons we should hire women, including: their efficiency, innovation, productivity and increasing money for the company/ agency, effective retention, and simply gender equality 🟰 more women !
Having graduated from an all women’s college, then Simmons College, now Simmons University in Boston it was amazing to me to witness my own self growth and confidence boost. Many leaders are made! I participated in many clubs and attended many panels and talks; the beginnings of my lifelong journey in self improvement.
Furthermore, I am grateful to so many professors who helped my learning including psychological testing, social psychology, bio psychology (loved those dissections and sleep 😴 studies), experimental psychology, Freud and dreams, English literature, mythology, biology, communication, journalism. It was the first time we made a short film 🎥 and we learned the difference between real journalism or simply “sensationalism” (comprising 80% of the news 📰 channels in Greece today). Our wonderful Dean, W. Peebles-Wilkins who fostered our mentoring of commuter students — Only years later do we realize how special these relationships were and the learning!
The women leaders of the Toastmasters crew in the U.S. as well as in Greece, the women (and men) who help us understand why we need to keep fighting and educating about femicide…and building health literacy! Why we need to keep “fighting” fires 🔥 to save animals and property, Trap King and Let’s be S.M.A.R.T., continue to be productive like Eleftheria (name means “freedom”), or the grannies whom I met on the boat to a small island sharing their joy despite any chronic health conditions or the covid outbreak 😷 💕💙
Finally, as a social scientist I would be remiss from not including the inspirations for my studies and thanking all Marie Curie Fellows, my mentors, for helping career growth in the field towards improving individual and community health.
Indeed all the strong women in my life including my good friends, aunts, mother and grandmother. Thanks for helping me build strength of character! We can accomplish miracles and with a little effort can help the world 🌎 a better place!
Carnival from “carne” or meat is the last “sinful” day as Christians transition to 40 days of lent. There are many customs around Greece including those well-known in Xanthi, Larisa, Naousa, Rethymnon (Crete), Zakinthos, Corfu, Patras, Nafplio. Smaller celebrations in mountain villages like Agios Andreas in Arcadia have several political messages but they all end in dancing and sharing food. Pagan to Christian traditions as we prepare for Spring. And of course if you ever make it to Venice, Italy 🇮🇹 or New Orleans in Louisiana for your beads …
Agios Andreas
Spring blossoms
Venice
Venetian masks
Trojan Horse. Arcadia
Float of native Americans in Korakovouni, Arcadia
Patra city hall
Larger cities have several parades over many weeks including the Patras youth parade (καρναβάλι μικρών Πάτρας) activities which this year after many lockdowns and restrictions was a year of great energy and fun! And the masquerading can include Latin dancing with great colleagues — much needed for physical and mental health!
In Greece, and many Eastern Orthodox Christians after the last Sunday of Carnival, on “Clean Monday” the cultural tradition for kids and families is to fly a kite 🪁 symbolic of the soul flying high — no meat, subdued and happy moments, with family the beginning of the 40 days of Lent. We need to manage our limbic system, in order to manage our anger in healthier ways… it’s not as easy as it looks (kite flying I mean 😏) but soaring high makes us feel as if we are free and with our maker.
“Today is the day when bold kites fly, when cumulus clouds roar across the sky. When robins return, when children cheer, when light rain beckons spring to appear.” Robert Mccracken (Irish author, former food scientist). There are many “kite quotes” as written up by Rene Turrek, a page of 122 to be exact, that will inspire all!
Ms. “Sarakosti” keeps time with her legs ! 7 weeks ….
Do not forget Ms. Sarakosti, the 7 feet symbolize each week of Lent. She humbly reminds us to turn within and add our family members names (optional) keeping us on a detoxification, continuing on our spiritual path.
The hope is that we learn to soar and the “growth mindset” takes some time ….
Manage yourself first ….including rethinking about what you do and say. No one is perfect.
Sit with it — Extreme emotions may be warranted but not to the detriment of your relationships. Start counting ….it takes about 10 seconds to realize how you’re feeling and a quick body scan, 🛑 reflect and then act!
Listen — Can you really “hear” truth or simply perceive criticism ? Good friends and family often want what’s best for us, so tease out what is valuable.
Clean house — inner and outer, literally and figuratively. A bit of fasting and reflecting is healthy. Decluttering also makes you feel great and the KonMarie method is one to follow! As a matter of fact one healthcare group in Sarasota Florida has a great health literacy message and a visual from Unitedhealthcare on the benefits of decluttering for older persons too — one room at a time.
Photo above of a friend’s beautiful creation and she wishes all, a “Happy Sarakosti!” There are many simple recipes for making “Miss Sarakosti” (translated to Miss 40 days) and she has no mouth or it’s wrapped for being modest or humble. Here is a video by Christina Kyvranoglou, you can also download /print the above to make your own cardboard form. Simple ingredients — flour, salt, corn flower, vegetable oil, decor are usually cloves and raisins (food colouring optional), low baking temperature 160•C and let it dry for at least 25-30 mins before displaying.
The beginning of the year started with critical minutes of being at the wrong or right page at the right / wrong time, taking in the “lessons learned” and see what we can do to help ourselves, our neighbors, our globe 🌍 whether it’s climate change, a tragedy, and even an opportunity that you have not “noticed” before. Let’s reframe!
We have witnessed entire towns and villages in Turkey 🇹🇷 and Syria 🇸🇾 disappear almost 30K dead according to CNN news, with estimates over 40,000 people possibly gone due to an earthquake of the worst in the 21sr century besides the 9,5 Richter scale in Chile in 1960. Be aware of what to do to protect yourself in event of an earthquake as CDC advises for prevention!
This morning in this little church of Saint Gerasimos in the city of Patras in Peloponnesus, I heard the priest say to a very stressed videographer preparing for a christening, “don’t stress because you might not be here tomorrow”… perhaps 🤔 he was referring to stress related issues as this is February the month of preparing for heart ❤️ health, or maybe due to the massive loss in the neighboring countries. I listened to these words of wisdom and appreciated the time I had to pray 🙏🏼 for all these lost souls, and pray for the living !
Then we had the snowstorm “Barbara” did we think that it “inconvenienced” us or perhaps helped us gain some snow literacy ? In some parts of the globe it’s natural to get “snowed in” we may gather supplies and equipment great for a few days, and be realistic to ask questions of the local municipality and government. Streets which have constant potholes less room for parking will suffer more when the snow falls as snow ploughing may be difficult. In other parts of the globe local contractors help with small trucks so as to take the ownership off the government.
Let’s enjoy each season for what it gives us, let’s imagine a work of beauty (like the Hogwarts castle!)
Elon Musk gave us his recommended reading list for the past year of 9 books (reinvent life !) and it still seems that some still like to read, while younger generations spend more time on social media and everything online and don’t read enough (except the comments on YouTube or TikTok videos!?). After a very stressful last two years finally many people are rethinking their life, beyond the New Year’s resolutions. Maybe the year of the rabbit 🐇 will finally help some of us move on for things we were stuck in our minds! Let’s turn the page …seeing new horizons and help protect our earth 🌍 as reminded by our Mardi Gras (also known as Carnival) statuette in the city of Patras waiting for their big Carnival event!
This year we focus on the inspirations of this little fur ball …. who has many offspring as if to ‘give’ to the world of his own self. Chinese New Year: Year of the Rabbit site inspires us to figure out our own Zodiac and what our challenges might be forthcoming. Our protective qualities, or health issues. Think of resolutions and what the last year meant to you.
We know that journal 📓 or diary-writing ✍️ and any creative writing is a great way to get our brain’s neurological system “back together again” as many studies suggest. So here are 5 things to look back at:
what you accomplished…
where you are headed next…
what you need to “fix” in yourself, or mend relationships (if they can be, else move on) understand that you are not perfect but neither is the person with the big ego!
what are you thankful for and give thanks 🙏 to the universe – God.
how has your body kept up with your age and the environmental impact.
This time 🕰️ it is customary for all of us to want to turn a new page, a new beginning, as we all want to move forward after years of pandemic madness, let’s be inspirational by the little prince and our lessons learned.
My goal is to “finish what I start” and delve more into “philosophy” and the “arts” …with a bit of book 📚 inspirationin 2 languages!
Do you enjoy good food and drink? Will you try something new this year ?
Along with the typical family treats in Greece and other Eastern European countries such as the crushed almond butter cookies with powder sugar “kourambiedes” (some refer to them as “Greek almond snowballs”!) and the spicy honey-dipped with walnuts “melomakarona” this year instead of the typical “vasilopita” we made an Italian inspiredpanettone …. More good food to try were beef stew and sautéed veggies 🥦 🥕 with potato hash brown type patty that made for a great British dinner 🥘 along with a berries and cherries low alcohol cider. Fish croquettes with some pieces of duck, salad greens 🥬 with Parmesan, and a glass of red wine 🍷for those good-for-heart flavonoids. Amazing tastes and no guilt on calories! Remember Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Eat, Pray, Love”? That’s a good new year’s philosophy to follow, as long as you eat in moderation!
Try new tastes and recipes…
A new year of strength and confidence in your own abilities, creative outlets, with much health, growth, and prosperity! 2023 – be the best you want to be.
Gifts, merriment, kindness, remembrance of Christmas Past, Christmas Present 🎁 and Christmas Future! This is what the English literary genius of Charles Dickens and Queen Victoria would likely have us take home after a visit to a great city like London, England.
Charles Dickens (Charles John Huffam Dickens 1812-1870) writings like “A Christmas Carol” (1843), “Oliver Twist” (1837-1838), “A Tale of Two Cities” (1859, set in Paris and London), and “Great Expectations” (1861) are still powerful reminders for us today about life. He authored hundreds of short stories, 20 novellas and novels which defined Victorian literature; surely Dickens was a champion for children’s rights, education, social reform. Dickens was also said to suffer from what we consider today to be obsessive compulsive disorder, further raising awareness for many health conditions of the time, including tuberculosis, and alcoholism, thus one would say he helped the public raise their health literacy.
From London with love to all … Sharing is caring, and beautiful cities must be maintained. When one respects cities, this can add joy to any pedestrian’s and onlookers viewing and experience. Of course there are a few things to be aware of including, no lighting in parks at night, and the London Fog can make one a bit uneasy 😬 (unfortunately many crimes were committed during Covid lockdown periods); personally, the Scotland Yard stories of detective Sherlock Holmes, and still unsolved Jack the Ripper case still intrigue.
Take a walk and “get lost” only to find your path again.
Travel far, open your eyes and mind, we are all global citizens.
Give what you can, you will have greater returns.
Purchase only what you need and 1 item that makes you happy.
Enjoy precious time with family and friends.
There are many Dickens quotes to share, but this holiday season let’s keep this one,
“I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.”
Tonight, while driving to (of all things) a Christmas party, I heard a wonderful tribute to darkness.
The poetry of beloved Scottish born author Kathleen Jamie referred to winter solstice. Playing against a backdrop of amazing music taking us all the way to the Arctic Circle and better understanding the Nordic cultures. It’s no wonder Jamie is currently considered one of Scotland’s greatest.
It is a realisation indeed, that we only speak of the “light in darkness” and we have been influenced by the Judeo-Christian traditions that were invented to help people come together in winter months (Christmas and Chanukah) a take-off from ancient pagan traditions.
Solstice is a special day twice each year, where the sun reaches its maximum or minimum declination. The longest day is June 21 and the shortest around 21 or 22 of December. So, I share here beloved Nordic nature with the “call” of ethereal singer
Ancient Nordic Chant — Frozen Call (Jonna Jinton, 2020)
Finishing my almost one month long psycho-educational group I decided that working during the winter months is special, since: 1) it helps everyone deal with the melancholia of less physical light (vitamin D deficiency too !) 2) people with chronic dermatological. or vein issues do better with the cold 3) it also prepares them to deal with the stress of the holidays !
We can delve a bit deeper into the Eleusinian mysteries or take a walk during this crisp winter night …. Did us a world of good ! The theme and practice of December traditions, transcends cultures.
Stay tuned for my next post about psychologist Ed Tick, PhD and his work on dream healing ❤️🩹 plus some special artisans to bridge the ancient archetypes with our modern ways.
It’s a male bonding thing, we can be happy about the World Cup to represent world team spirit and peace. It is similar to what Olympics were designed to do. Healthy adrenaline, seeing how teams are built, goals are targeted, and legends are made. Team Captain our captain 👨✈️ Lionel Andres Messi, of the Argentinian national team, a grande finale for this talented player.
Teamwork— we are better together … an important video.
However the game goes let’s remember the thousands who died building the stadium, cleaning the pews — kudos to the Japanese fans — all the staff preparing the food 🥘, so much goes on for a successful event …
November 19th is International Men’s Health Day reminding men to keep healthy, among other things special focus on heart 💜 health, skin health, and checking for testicular or colon cancers (talk with your doctor or paediatrician— yes testicular issues can happen with teens too!). Let’ normalise our body for better health….. it seems that our media alters our perception about being ‘perfect’ and so this post is dedicated to the many males that have told me about their health and sexuality issues, in my attempt to help them continue to ask questions and seek professional advice. Furthermore, I was sent this ‘talisman’ from an archaeologist friend to prompt interest in this area… after all ‘sex sells’ as they say. A 2022 article in Men’s Health focused on the Best and Worst Cities for Longevity but one may not be able to afford good food, have little time to exercise, and their immediate environment may be dirty, have toxins and in essence be hazardous for their health. Hopefully history can help us learn more, and continue to increase our health literacy.
1) The talisman of the phallus for “good luck and fertility/ health” from Roman times, gives historical context of the importance to men and women. Interestingly around the globe (except in Greece) there are temples dedicated to Priapus however he was banned from Olympus, perhaps there was a reason? Aphrodite (‘Venus’) in the statue found in the Archaeological Museum in Athens shows amusement but is ready to ‘strike’ with her sandal a very ‘eager’ Pan, while Eros holds him back…..
The ‘reverence’ of the Penis but also showcasing the human body, throughout history. Many cultures from Ancient Greece and Rome to Ancient Egypt, and statues found in Latin America prove this.
2) The statue of Don Quixote (Quichote) and and his trusted companion sidekick is his squire Sancho Panza found in Madrid, Spain.
Sancho Panza is a short, pot-bellied peasant (reminding men to keep healthy and share their problems with smart witty friends!)
Don Quixote of La Mancha was published by Miguel Cervantes in 1600s and considered a worldwide classic!
Don Quixote & Sanchez — photos by B. Kondilis (c) 2022, Madrid, Spain 🇪🇸
Freud talks about ‘penis envy’ but one could argue there is also ‘vagina envy’ and it seems more men like to cross-dress than women do, so that says something. Furthermore, since it comes up ⬆️ often in discussions (pun intended)…we thought to share about the “obsession with the penis” — read more in Science Direct article by K. Wylie published in 2008. There is also a very extensive blog post about “the Phallus in Ancient Greece” making the point that many ancient cultures revered it as a symbol of health and fertility. Beyond this, I published in 2006 about AIDS research 🧐 but we are still dealing with an endemic situation… Good to stay alert 🚨 and be safe.
Autumn is here and we are loving the rain and cooler days. For many world regions floodwater has destroyed property and land a bit apocalyptic for some; flooding is concerning due to continued climate change.
Time for the Earth to bare her last fruit/veggies as she, like us ”takes a rest”. Fall or Autumn (from the Latin autumnus) reminds us of the year passing, as we take out out warm sweaters and comfort foods.
What is your Fall Season “comfort food”? Perhaps a morning oatmeal with a bit of maple syrup reminding you of the colors and the beauty of autumn.
In times of “low energy“ it’s to your benefit to add some extra vitamins with pumpkin seeds, cranberries, some goji berries … good and extra yummy!
Wikipedia defines comfort food as something of nostalgic nature from our childhood usually that makes us feel “cared for” and indeed a hot breakfast around cold Fall and winter days makes us feel better. A reminder that “all that falls” could be your mood and a bit of seasonal depression so do something, be active, put on that warm cuddly sweater and make something good for yourself !
Breakfast, the most important part of your day so start your day with energy!
Demeter, goddess of agriculture, harvest and fertility, is a reminder of seasonal changes, human bounty, and potential loss. Gods and goddesses of Ancient Greece mirrored human nature, one may say as a mother she surely felt a great emptiness when her daughter Persephone was lured by Hades into the underworld disappearing from beloved earth grounds. Hades, a dark figure (may be something like a modern Darth Vader) convinces the kind-hearted Persephone to fall for him offering her a pomegranate.
By eating a few seeds she consummates this relationship so that even the great leader-god Zeus could not intervene, thus Persephone travels to Hades part of the year, and as she re-emerges her mother, Demeter brings flowers and the budding of Spring — a beautiful myth!
Writers talk about the necessity of change, darkness being a necessary part of our healing (Thomas Moore “Dark Nights of the Soul”).
The continued pagan tradition of the pomegranate, a bittersweet food of seeds or squeezed into juice, rich in vitamin C and anti-inflammatory properties, is added with barley / bulgar wheat, to commemorate death of loved ones as part of the memorial services of several Eastern Orthodox traditions (called “kolyva” κόλλυβα).
There’s a great list of benefits including helping weight loss indicated in a popular fitness magazine, Shape (pomegranate info).
There are the RED types
And the PINK types (regional differences and sweeter) are both equally delicious!
Fall healthy eating tips:
Eat more pumpkin, lotus, and any beta carotene rich vegetables and fruit
Pair your leftover Halloween 🎃 candy w/ some Omega rich nuts !
Take a walk in the woods and gather some chestnuts ? Remember 20 mins a day, walk briskly.
We have known many people who are here today gone tomorrow, through accidents, illness, homicide, or even a sudden heart attack. We don’t know the why, it just is. Or is it?
It’s a combination of our genes and the environment. It’s also about our personality type if we are “impulsive” we take more risks or if we “keep things bottled up” can eat away at our core…. Reach out, Speak 🗣 Up! There are those philosophies about death and about living a “good life” that can help us reframe, as expressed in stoic philosophy.
Health literacy is about understanding risk and focusing on preventing or further worsening of symptoms. October is an “awareness” month for Fall (including for animals) and April for Spring, let’s keep learning. As CDC says, health literacy affects everyone!
Regarding intimate relationships and potential abuse or abuse of children and animals which is particularly traumatic or infuriating to all — sites like this one are mandatory for all youth to be reading and trained with! (See ywcaspokane.org Power and Control Wheel 🛞). When we understand about Power and Control we can understand about human “sin”, motivation and weaknesses. And we need to promote classes in schools to discuss human – healthy relationships.
Using intimidation is never “cool” in intimate relationships. Deal with your own anger first.
I was also very pleased to see a social marketing poster for citizens to remind them to call the hotline for dealing with potential child abuse as there have been many recent high profile cases, involving crime “rings” with that are surfacing in Greek news 📰 as of late. I note however that these crimes have been happening since the old times particular victims attractive “good-quiet” kids! 😣
How long will you wait before you say something? Social marketing poster with hotline to call 📞 for child abuse
I have lost many friends in their late 20s (diabetes, liver cancer, accidents), 30s and 40s (stomach cancer, pancreatic cancer, heart attacks) and with secondary aging more expected in 50s and 60s and beyond. Death of young athletes especially shock us, like this of Mr. Nikolaidis, age 42, a Tae Kwon Do Olympic medalist who had a rare form of cancer. The Olympics article writes that he never said, “Why me?” in his two year cancer battle. He lived a good and useful life and when he discussed with a reporter years ago his working with children training them in Tae Kwon Do, I loved his sense of responsibility for the “twenty pairs of eyes” who looked up to him. As he also had two young children himself, we are especially saddened for their loss.
The Olympiad’s written message to all speaks volumes. Persistence is admirable and all are saddened by loss of great people. 😔😢The images speak volumes even if you don’t speak Greek, as his support for other cancer victims lead to his putting up his two Olympic medals for auction in helping children/ youth fighting cancer.
While fighting his own cancer, he supported others, this was the character of Olympiad Nikolaidis.
Teaching for more than 13 years courses like Developmental Psychology, having experience in hospitals and Psy wards as an intern and Counselor, discussing these cases is critical for my students learning. We talk about life but also death. I share 3 lessons for all …
Lesson #1 — if your teen or young adult is “drinking” themselves to death you need to intervene with friends/ family and professionals like family therapists or social workers, health psychologists, even religious leaders who mean something to the teen, young adult, older adult. There is specialized training, as often high risk behaviors “won’t go away” on their own. Young people engage in “sensation seeking” behaviors — as ridiculous as it may sound to you, we’ve had youth snort the white chemical known as white-out (or “blanco”) to get “highs”, and more often motorists speeding without helmets ⛑ for the rush of adrenaline ….and getting into very serious or deadly accidents, that could have been prevented. Police 👮♂️ need to do their jobs, and we never drink and drive. This shocking but true video speaks volumes….
No words 😶 Never tailgate, and NEVER drink and drive !
Lesson #2 — too little or too much of a good thing can be harmful to our body. This includes too many vitamins or too little, exercise, sex, sleep, heavy lifting, etc. Self-care is NOT selfish! And managing our emotions and what we “take in” is priority.
Lesson #3 — share love 💗 as much as you can, ask for forgiveness, go to trips local or international, enjoy good food and good wine 🍷 (not too much), and ask for and give many hugs 🤗 ! Adult humans and children need comfort as much as animals do. These images and quotes from https://lessonslearnedinlife.com/ are particularly poignant.
Simple words, speak 🗣 volumes about Life.
Defining Health Literacy is critical to understanding life. We need patience to help others, ourselves and only time will tell the outcome. Keep moving and keep doing, don’t live with regrets, be all the best you can be, learning is a lifelong process.